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    Is having a Sexual Fantasy Cheating?

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    Is having a sexual fantasy cheating?
    Is having a Sexual Fantasy cheating on your partner?

    Prolog……
    I write this realizing there is a religious aspect that is not being addressed or being considered…purely a secular opinion…..

    In opening and to set the theme, the consensus of those polled nationally is that 70% answered the question that it is not cheating…..so the majority opinion is discussed here……..
    Fantasizing is normal for anyone. Whether it be sexual or otherwise. It is universal,..... we all do it so ….. Sexual fantasy is something all of us will experience in our lives, and the idea that such a deeply personal, and often satisfying experience could be construed as cheating, is not accepted......... We've all had our moments of lustful thinking, whether it be over a celebrity or passing person of admirable attractiveness. The difference between fantasy and cheating is action. Acting upon lust, while involved with another is infidelity, no question, but the experience of lustful thoughts is both natural, healthy, and often not preventable.
    Just because you are fantasizing doesn't at all mean that you ever have any intention of acting out the fantasy in real life. In significant number married persons are able to share their fantasies with their spouse and actually act some of them out……this acting of fantasy is a spark that invigorates and stimulates married sex…..bringing the spouses emotionally closer in understanding one another. it is something you can act out like the doctor …patient…nurse popular fantasy….. All this is considered normal and healthy as long as you are both comfortable with the idea.......Sharing your fantasies with your spouse also shows him how much you trust him. Being comfortable enough to tell him about them will make him really open up to you about things he is interested in too. .
    Fantasy can lead to all manner of outcomes........from masturbation to acting out a scenario with an intimate partner........... Some never lead to anything and are merely passing flights of fancy......... and others, occasionally become regular, almost obsessive fantasies about someone whom we may have feelings towards. Whether or not these feelings are ever acted upon, generally depends on the individual and their relationship status............ as well as their personal morals and values, and whether or not they choose to act upon these feelings.......however,,moreover, rightly so.......for most of us, it remains............ just a passing imaginary scenario, gone as quickly as it came. We can't control the thoughts that enter our heads but........... we can choose how we respond to them, and in that respect, fantasy is not cheating.




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    Tis always a bit of a rush experiencing a sexual fantasy....I think they add to our sexual desires while giving us stimulating moments...Being one who cannot get aroused in a single moment, I need a bit of time to psych myself up, so I would say that it is my sexual fantasies throughout the day that do it for me....
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    Great Post! If Sexual Fantasy was cheating, I think, we would all be cheating!

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    I dont think it is cheating..I actually think it is kinda healthy and normal...
    Also at this time most of my fantasies are about my hubby...guess when they spend so much time away from home it can be that way....but there is one certain person in this world that I have fantasized about a few times...and my husband has reaped the benefits.....so what was the harm????

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    NOPE!! lol

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    ....but there is one certain person in this world that I have fantasized about a few times...and my husband has reaped the benefits.....so what was the harm????
    Good point ... and you may be sure someone in this world has been fantasizing about you too now and then ...


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    If fantasies equal cheating then I am guilty many times a day. I agree that fantasies are healthy and normal. I am sure most all men and women alike fantasize.

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    Well, as far as i know everybody has a sexual fantasy which does not includes their partner. Having a sexual fantasy is very common and is practiced by a lot of peoples to pleasure themselves. So don't be guilty and continue doing it.

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    Of course not, I've had a sexual fantasy for many famous woman, but that's all it is and all it ever will be. My girlfriend knows she's my one and only. (we're engaged)

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    I can't remember a life before sexual fantasy. I would have become old and fat and all hunched over, a shell of my former self without it. I culture it like a fine pearl, polishing it down by writing erotica. I creatively persue the next ultimate scenario my mind can manufacture. I couldn't power through a workout, eat another serving of baked chicken and lettuce or have predictable married sex without it.
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