Is having a sexual fantasy cheating?
Is having a Sexual Fantasy cheating on your partner?
I write this realizing there is a religious aspect that is not being addressed or being considered…purely a secular opinion…..
In opening and to set the theme, the consensus of those polled nationally is that 70% answered the question that it is not cheating…..so the majority opinion is discussed here……..
Fantasizing is normal for anyone. Whether it be sexual or otherwise. It is universal,..... we all do it so ….. Sexual fantasy is something all of us will experience in our lives, and the idea that such a deeply personal, and often satisfying experience could be construed as cheating, is not accepted......... We've all had our moments of lustful thinking, whether it be over a celebrity or passing person of admirable attractiveness. The difference between fantasy and cheating is action. Acting upon lust, while involved with another is infidelity, no question, but the experience of lustful thoughts is both natural, healthy, and often not preventable.
Just because you are fantasizing doesn't at all mean that you ever have any intention of acting out the fantasy in real life. In significant number married persons are able to share their fantasies with their spouse and actually act some of them out……this acting of fantasy is a spark that invigorates and stimulates married sex…..bringing the spouses emotionally closer in understanding one another. it is something you can act out like the doctor …patient…nurse popular fantasy….. All this is considered normal and healthy as long as you are both comfortable with the idea.......Sharing your fantasies with your spouse also shows him how much you trust him. Being comfortable enough to tell him about them will make him really open up to you about things he is interested in too. .
Fantasy can lead to all manner of outcomes........from masturbation to acting out a scenario with an intimate partner........... Some never lead to anything and are merely passing flights of fancy......... and others, occasionally become regular, almost obsessive fantasies about someone whom we may have feelings towards. Whether or not these feelings are ever acted upon, generally depends on the individual and their relationship status............ as well as their personal morals and values, and whether or not they choose to act upon these feelings.......however,,moreover, rightly so.......for most of us, it remains............ just a passing imaginary scenario, gone as quickly as it came. We can't control the thoughts that enter our heads but........... we can choose how we respond to them, and in that respect, fantasy is not cheating.
THERE IS NO SUBSTITUTE FOR CONFIDENCE
Written by 1Alex