I tow a fine line here. I tend to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I believe that people are truely good and that evil things that are done typically have some reason (maybe not justification) that can be possible explained or understood. I find that if I can understand the reason and live in their shoes for that moment, I may be able to come to terms with the action. I may not have done the same thing as them, but understanding the reasoning is the first step in moving forward in my opinion.
Trust is very very tough with me. Although I give the benefit of the doubt, I tend not to fully trust. I've been in the online world for several years and there is a reason I never really got that close to anyone. Then I met my princess and that changed. She has shown me how to trust and believe that someone can truely have your best intentions in mind. We've had bumps and moments to get through, but again understanding is key here. It takes alot for a person who has been hurt or wronged to take a step back and try to understand why. But I have found that if the other person is willing to let you into that reasoning, and take the time to explain their actions, you can usually move forward and repair. Do I hold grudges? Nah, not really. I don't wish harm on people that have done me wrong, but I certainly am not giving them keys to anything I own very easily. I forgive, but I may not ever forget. But, there is a difference between forgetting the action and the fact that it occurred, and forgetting the feelings that came with that action. If you can forget those feelings, then you can move on.
I have to admit, that when I first joined this site, I had some reservations. As much as I trusted my princess, I also had to learn to trust that the other people here are good and would respect our relationship. It took a little for me to get there, but I have. And honestly, it is ultimately the trust that my princess would not allow someone to come into our bubble, just like I would not.
Justagirl, Well said. I completely agree with your beautiful vase analogy.
Don, Also well said, I will add that once my trust is broken I will no longer put you in a "friend" category. I do forgive, but I will NEVER put myself in that position with you again. EVER!
As far as a romantic relationship, trust is the key. Putting things in place that will help with that like walls, barbed wire and locking ourselves in towers has built our relationship. The love we share we have fought for and I trust the prince with my life, love, and pursuit of happiness.
Most of the time, my instincts are right but not all the time. I've forgiven people who have lied to me....but they continued to lie and lie and lie.....not everyone is like that. I trust some people to a certain point. I don't have many friends because it's really hard to let them in and trust them but I'm trying.
All too often and with disastrous results -- but I continue to do it. I've made it past and through that sort of thing with people who are not in any way egocentric and have helped settle me more firmly into the belief that there still a few good souls out there.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
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I trust to easy sometimes. Have been hurt alot before. Talk about put down and but I always to this day try to find good in every one.
But I also learn that some things is better not share so no one can turn around and use it against you when they are in one
of there moods. I will let other in my life but still careful in how much information I share with others.
I am his baby and he is mine.
He rock my world.
I am totally in love with my baby.