I just want everyone to be the best they are supposed to be. I give everyone benefit of the doubt, but in recent months, I've built walls but they have some windows. I'm practicing a good balance right now. It's great to have good friends...True friends are priceless
I trust no one. Even those closest to you eventually break or betray your trust, even after a long time.
I am trusting - to a fault sometimes. but betray that trust, and that is it...I am done with you. and I hold grudges for a very long time. that is why my oldest daughter and I are barely speaking....she betrayed my trust big-time a few years back, and it lead to me questioning everything she has ever told me or said to me. we had - I thought so at least - a very close and tight relationship until that happened. sometimes I feel bad pulling way back from her, but I have to do it.
Even as cynical as I think I've become, as discerning as I consider myself, I wind up more than trusting at times ... I let people in. For a split second, I forget to keep the shutters nailed in place, and I have hope. For reciprocity, for mutual respect ... for similar consideration. I can't change. I think it would be healthier for me to be more deliberate, but I trust, inevitably, because It's about the benefit of the doubt for me. And too often I'm helplessly wrong
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
it's funny that this has come up now as this is something I've been mulling over the majority of this week. I am very trusting to those people that I allow to be close to me. But once THAT trust is broken, I just don't know how it's ever completely repaired. I guess it's a bit like a beautiful vase, once it's broken, you can glue it back together but you might have to turn it around so no one can see the big crack, but you know it's never quite as pristine as it once was. I read something that said to forgive truly, you have to forget and I don't know how to do that when someone you trust without boundaries betrays that trust.