For me, I no longer judge life by trust, trustworthiness, applying the trust standard. I've fu**ed up so many different ways from Saturday that those ups and downs have clued me into the fact I was judging trust on the basis of what I thought I was, how I assumed I was above messing up. Life ... is life. I compartmentalize ... I'm mom, so I love with all my heart; I'm worker-bee, so I work, and although I have issues with coworkers I don't go up and tell them off, and my language at work is different than it is with my comfort people; I'm daughter, so I look after my dad. And so on. Life is broken down spokewise for me. Situational, compartmentalized. Someone who is trustworthy in one situation could be a complete trust ruiner in another. These days, I can only judge for myself, as instances occur ... looking not backward nor forward but simply moving with the time. It's more healthy for me and it's my goal to keep at it until I can be sure I do consistently.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~Dr. Seuss