I've thought a lot about this and keep wondering .... what is it that women really want?
I never thought I was that bad of a guy. I tried to be a good husband, and a better father than what I knew. I provided well for my family, tried my best to be a good father to my children telling them every night how much I loved them after I read them their story, played our silly games, and said our prayers yet, it never seemed to be enough.
I married a lady who had 3 kids, took them in, paid for them, raised them because their real dad never would provide much for them. Tried to teach them some of the values I thought they would need, even paid the legal fees for one who got into trouble. My now ex wife never loved me (or so she said). My children who I used to read to every night, and did everything I could for, hardly even talk with me. My step kids NEVER talk with me.
I used to take my ex out on dates, made her a beautiful home (which the court gave her) and tried everything I could think of to help her feel special ... but I reckon I missed something. I'd go to work every day, work on the house, or making things, make my own dinner and most nights dinner for the kids too (they told me I should have been a cook), helped clean (but was told this was only to make her feel guilty) ... actually was just because I couldn't live in a place that dirty. Paid off all her pre-marital debt, and tried in every way to be a good husband. Well, it was evident there was nothing I could do, or say to earn her love. Yes, I even brought her flowers, and wrote her cards and notes to try to show her I cared.
So, my question is ... what do women want in a man, in a mate, in someone they can see spending their life with? I see guys who mistreat women and the women stay. I see guys treat their lives horrible, not appreciating what they have, and yet the women stay. I reckon if that is what it takes I'll always be alone, because I was raised to respect women. I watch the movies, and the shows, and wonder exactly what it is that is attractive to women. Honestly, I don't have a clue. If you could help, I'd appreciate it.