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Thread: Do the best relationships start with those who are . . .

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    Do the best relationships start with those who are . . .

    Friends first? What about the instant chemistry for those who "blind-date"?

    Is there an appropriate amount of time, finite? infinite?, for the length of a friendship for it to turn more romantic or intimate in nature?

    Does it happen all at once or is the changeover gradual?

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    In my life it takes to get to know that person, their wits, beliefs, the hurts tehy have experienced and are carrying with them and so it would go through friendship to something more ... and that phase can last anywhere between 10 minutes and 5 years, depending on how open the communication is.

    Does this at least vaguely rate as an answer to your question ?
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    Apparently I am not a great person to share insight on this particular question since I tend to rush into my relationships. I suppose that the best ones would be from starting as friends first. Just makes sense because there would be a basis of compatibility and respect from the beginning. I often wonder though if the attraction is based on the fact that the people began to look better the more you knew them. I mean, obviously if there was an instant visual attraction, that would have overpowered and the sexual interest would have taken center stage.

    I don't think there is any sort of time limits that could be imposed since every person and every relationship is different. I think those that require certain amounts of times for things could be missing or would miss out entirely on someone that may have been perfect for them.
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    Just my 2 cents : I think you have to have a friendship first . Get to know the person . There can be an instant attraction. I personally want to know them , where they have been , lived through , " feel " their heart , know their dreams , wishes, secrets. What they want for their future . Can I trust them with my heart ...
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    I think it's impossible to get to know someone over a short period of time... and those that jump into a relationship.. are willing to take that gamble... but if you've known someone for awhile... and it hasn't been about that "romantic" journey that so many of us have plunged into only to discover it isn't what we thought... then I believe that you build a foundation on the knowledge you gain as just being a friend... and anything stable has to be built on a firm foundation. ...and just the same as building anything... you have to take your time... otherwise you end up with something haphazardly put together.... maybe something that has been somewhat rushed... That leaves an opening to have overlooked a few key components. If it's that important... and you want it to last a lifetime... then don't put a time constraint on anything... it will work.. when it does.. and not before then.
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    Orienting something to immediacy and have-to time in my life doesn't seem to do anything but cause anxiety. There are enough things that have to be ruled by the clock that relationships shouldn't be one of them. Attraction and chemistry are important, but a friend, a trust, a bond . . . it takes a lifetime to know someone, but a relationship the starts with a base of companionability, for which closeness grows with similarity, with resilience, with the day in and out . . . that's appropriate for me. I'm not sure I would ever label it best. For each, to each, his or her own. But a friend, the right kind, can grow with you and perseveres.
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