Why do people intentionally lie to others? What makes a person that way? Why can't everyone just tell the truth? Thoughts?
I think some people who lie -- and for whom lying is a mainstay -- get so entirely wrapped up in and enamored of the "life" they've presented, they are unable, incapable or unwilling to either admit they've lied or try to make restitution; they could really care less. The people on the far end of this spectrum, who lie as a means of manipulation and hurt not just to get out of, say, a dinner with an inlaw or play hookie from work -- I'm glad I can say I've not run into too many of these types. How much easier would be if everyone could be upfront and truthful in the day-to-day!!
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
Its just common nature for some people.....don't understand why people lie intentionally to hurt others
I have no idea why people lie but I think, for a small group of people this becomes a way of life for them, sadly. It truly must be a sad way of life for them, although they would never admit that to anyone, I'm sure. I truly feel sorry for some people that I've met because I gave them the benefit of the doubt.... With that being said, MOST of these people, I saw through them early on and it was nobody's fault but my own to allow it to happen. I should have went with my instinct gut feeling and simply lost all connections with them instead of continuously allowing them to lie, lie and lie some more to me.
Liars have a way of convincing people that they are the victims. Most vulnerable people fall for their lies. I have been very vulnerable in my life and I do believe it's because I have a heart and a huge one. I care so deeply about people that I let it affect me in all aspects. I'm the type of person who would do anything for anyone even if it hurts me in the long run and it's came back to bite me in butt several times. I can't say that I've learned my lesson because I'm sure that I haven't....I'm very skeptical of people and I think that I am always a little wary of letting new people in because honestly...the people who have always claimed to care about me the most are the ones that have lied to me and hurt me. (Not ALL but most)
So, what do I think of liars/habitual liars? I think, they are scared and pathethic individuals who get their thrills out of "getting away" with what they can by vulnerable people. And sadly, those vulnerable people are the ones that care most about these liars.
With that being said, I will continue to care for people because that is who I am and I'm sure that I'll continue being lied to by some but there are some good people in this world and I won't shut them out completely because of others. I will simply be more careful with who, I choose to let in.
You're soooo right. It must be extremely exhausting to live that way. There are some people who go through life living a complete lie and eventually they do not even realize they are lying. It becomes a way of life for them....even to the point that they THINK they are telling the truth themselves. CRAZY!!
I think everyone tells little white lies but that is VERY much different on being a habitual liar. I know it really bothers me when others lie to you straight to your face and they have to have a conscious? I've been lied to by some of the people that I truly thought cared about me. People who KNEW all the things that I had been through and how I felt about it. They would tell me things such as.... "I can't believe he/she did that to you", "I would never do anything such as that to anyone", etc. When all along, they were doing the exact same things, well worse things than the people whom they were talking about.
People online have a better opportunity to lie. Although, I don't think everyone online lies.....it's the handfull that do that ruin other people's trust in online friendships. People in "real life", lie too, it's not only online, although I do feel the opportunity is better online.
The song says it all "I'm so much cooler online".....talking to "five girls online at one time", blah blah blah...
I have seen this happen to many people for many years. But eventually, ALL these people that are being lied to, well, they catch on to the liar and eventually the liar has to change their online identity and start all over. It's sad..it makes us all suspicious.
I am who I am....I have met several people here and I have made some true friendships online..some of the best!! I've also been lied to, stomped on and dragged through the online dirt!
But looking back now, I do kinda feel sorry for the sneaky, nosey, liars that apparently have no life other than to LIE. It must be a very sad way to live....to lie to your spouse about your online activities is one thing and don't get me wrong... I don't look down on anyone for telling a little white lie to your spouse about being online at a flirting site, I do look down on those who completely lie about who they are, players who are only out to screw who they can and view pictures of who they can (perverts) and hurt others intentionally. I've been lied to by the best of liars but caught on a long time before they knew that I had caught on. I simply just stepped back........let them lie if it makes them feel better.
Some people just confuse me and I don't understand why they lie about lying.
Got carried away...rambling
People lie because they think it helps them advance their agenda and most liars have a hidden agenda.
Most liars lie to look better in others eyes, to simplify things, to garner sympathy, to manipulate others, etc. Lots of reasons.
I've had the displeasure of knowing people who told lies every time their mouth opened. Most of the time, we as society, let them get away with it.
So, what do you do when you know a person is lying to you? Do you just step back as Georgia said and let them continue to lie or do you do something about it? All liars eventually get caught somehow.